How To Mend A Broken Heart And Learn To Love Again


Have you ever been heart-broken?

You’re not alone. I once did.

Banged up, beat down, battered, and broken.

Most of us went through this painful experience at one time or another.

The good news is you could turn this curse into a blessing by mending your broken heart and 
learning to love again.


It is sad how many times loving relationships end up with broken hearts. When a relationship ends, it takes a toll on the self-esteem of the people involved, especially the lover who was left behind. It may take months, if not years, for one to recover.

For me, it took months before I started to smile again. More than five years before it all started to heal. And another five years to be completely restored.

In all those years, I have learned that it takes time for our hearts to mend. 

That the deeper you love the person, the more painful it is when he/she is gone. And the longer it will take for you to find yourself again and move on.


There are 3 things I did to mend my broken heart and love again:

1. Released forgiveness. I didn’t only forgive the person who hurt me, but I also forgave myself for all the wrong things I did and felt during the relationship. Sometimes what hinders us from moving on is the anger we feel towards our selves. We think we did not do enough in saving the relationship. Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. It is necessary to move on and really be free.

2. Rebuilt my self-esteem. I realized I could only really let go and move on with life if I settled everything with myself first. As long as I don’t realize my true worth and value, I could never take away the pain of loss. I embarked on the journey to find my real purpose in life. I've come to know Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior. And with it I’ve found self-worth and healing.

3. Kept my heart open to love. This is the most important part. I don’t think I would have found love again if I had not kept my heart open for it. There was a time when I did not think I could ever love again. I thought I would remain single for the rest of my life because I have always compared those who have crossed my path to my former.

But the moment I stopped comparing and began opening up my heart to others, love found its way to me. The key was cultivating a close relationship with God, and then He led me to the best person suited for me. She is my wife now.

It was then I found out remaining in love is having faith.


“Sometime in July the sun did shine
And life on earth became worth living once again.”

                                                                - Sometime in July
                                                                  (Poem by Raymund Tamayo, July 2002)

Wishing you all warm nights through these cold rainy days. I know you have your own story to tell. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.