The 10-10 Principle

by Raymund Tamayo

From a scale of one to ten, with ten being the highest, how would you put a value on yourself? Using the same scale, can you also put a value on others?

Lesson: Answering differently on any of the two questions may lead to relationship problems in the future. We should value others the same way we value ourselves, and vice versa.


Valuing ourselves more than we value other people will tend to make us arrogant, selfish, and uncaring. Meanwhile, valuing others more than we value ourselves will bring forth feelings of self-pity, insecurity, and depression.

If we don't put the same value on ourselves and on others, then how can we be thankful for our own life and be respectful of the life of others?

When we have the attitude that everyone is equally valuable, it is easier to be kind and appreciative.

We don't immediately focus on the weaknesses of others, because we know they are still as valuable as we are and everyone has weaknesses. Nobody is perfect.

We can easily respect another person's opinion, because they are as privileged as we are to voice out their point of view.

We are not quick to defend ourselves when we are misjudged, because we know ourselves. We love ourselves and we understand we will not be devalued by anything anyone could ever say.

That's why Jesus said we should love others as we love ourselves.