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How to Deal With Disappointments


Your ability to adapt is a powerful trait for living a life of happiness. 


If you can’t understand that you don't have to be in control all the time, then you are in for some serious trouble. 

Disappointments come into your life only if you allow them.

Some things are just beyond your control. You must learn to accept that or forever be frustrated. 

In fact, when it comes to people, the only person you have control over is yourself. 

Don’t worry on things that you cannot change. Don’t be expect too much on people that you cannot change. To have peace and happiness, you must realize that.

It's okay to be disappointed.


It's natural, but once you do, you can immediately recognize it and adjust to it.

What keeps you unhappy when you are disappointed is your desire to be okay again as soon as possible. 

Most of the time, that is what’s really stressing you out. You can’t accept that you feel disappointed.

Everyone is unique.

The process of adjustment is different from person to person, so don’t worry about it. 

One of the most difficult things to do is to just allow yourself to express a feeling. 

It’s okay to grieve for a time, without thinking of speeding up the process of healing. 

It’s ironic but only when you have accepted that what you are feeling is okay, your recovery will become faster.

It’s alright to feel disappointed because you know it will soon pass away. 

Realistic, not pessimistic.

Better if you expect disappointments and see the glass as already broken.

What does that mean? It means that you see disappointments as inevitable. 

If you see your newly-bought china as already broken the moment you had it, then when it eventually breaks you will have an easier time recovering, and you will cherish every moment you had it.

Expect your wife to make mistakes, nobody is perfect. 

Expect your son to mess up, all children do. 

Expect your friend to not agree with you all the time. 

Expect service providers to be rude sometimes. 

Expect that things don’t always go according to plan. 

Expect things to go wrong, or to be different than what you intended or hoped for. 

Expect the unexpected to happen, and accept it as that.

This is not being pessimistic, but rather realistic. When you expect and welcome disappointments, you gain power over it, which leads to a happier life.

Be okay with not knowing everything.

Another thing that makes people unhappy is the tendency to always demand an empirical explanation for everything. 

It’s not possible, and even when it is, why want to? You can never be happy by knowing everything. 

Have you ever heard of the old saying “simple minds are happy minds”? When you’re not demanding, you can better appreciate anything.

When you let go of the “I deserve an explanation” delusion, you will have peace of mind as if a huge burden was lifted off your shoulders. 

Whenever something disappointing happens, you will be able to let it go and say “it’s just the way it is.”

The world is not made for any single person's convenience.

Perhaps, some people have the wrong notion that this world was created for their own convenience. So when they experience a setback, they are not prepared to accept the reality that something really bad can happen to them.

The people who are most susceptible to take a beating when something bad happens are those who seem to be naïve to understand that bad things can happen even to good people. 

The truth is that this world was never made for any one person’s convenience – it was made just the way it is. As they say, it happens even to the best of them.

Disappointments are merely part of happiness and success in life.

Realize that the world has no obligation to single you out from among the billions of people on the planet and exempt you from any untoward incident. 

The universe was not created to look after your welfare, or anybody’s. 

Since nobody is exempted, accept the fact that bad things can happen even to good people, including you. 

When bad things happen to you, react with composure, understand why such a thing happened, do something about it and live on. 

A setback is usually a part of your journey toward success and happiness.